Stop Downplaying Your Progress and Success!

This is too true. It doesn’t just apply to anxiety & mental health; it applies to all progress.

Getting Through Anxiety

Hi everyone! So last week, I had a great time shopping with my mom. While I didn’t do a ‘perfect’ job, I did do really well when it came to going out and not allowing anxiety to get the best of me. I never had to leave the store early, I walked around, and I thoroughly enjoyed myself.

With that being said, there were moments when my anxiety did increase and I found myself doing less than spectacular. At those moments, I found that I began to beat myself up. My mom kept saying how well I was doing and yet, I still felt down on myself. Here’s the thing – there was a time when I wouldn’t even try to go into those stores. There was a time when I’d have to sit on the ground whenever I got too anxious to stand (true, they were furniture stores, so…

View original post 283 more words

12 thoughts on “Stop Downplaying Your Progress and Success!”

    1. Aw! Thank you for nominating me & the kind words you used in your post!

      I don’t normally fill in Tags & Awards (I actually have a page saying I’m not currently doing them at all), but I may do this one! I really like your questions & responses. 🙂

      Like

      1. You’re welcome!

        You do what you’d like with the award. 🙂 I know some people who are into doing it, and some people who aren’t…I just don’t know for sure when nominating bloggers.

        Liked by 1 person

      2. I never think poorly on someone for nominating me for an award. I know very few people know it unless I tell them.

        The way I look at it? Even if I don’t do an award or a tag, that person thought of me when considering people to nominate. I think you, or another poster, said they’d like to hear the selected blogger’s responses. For someone to want to hear your opinion, at all, on the internet or in person, is a huge deal.

        It means a lot to me. ❤

        Liked by 1 person

      3. Aw! I know people can react weirdly online. Still, it feels weird knowing people react negatively to someone nominating them for a blog award/tag.

        It’s important to remember you’re not responsible for how someone else reacts. I can’t imagine how someone could construe anything negative from a nomination – your actions are genuine. Anyone who reacts badly to a genuine action is determined to spread negativity. 🙂

        Awww. Thank you for appreciating my opinions. That, like praising my honesty, may come back to bite you! 😁

        Liked by 1 person

      4. It’s weird, but it’s not the end of the world for me, thankfully.

        I often need to remind myself that I am not responsible for how someone else reacts. Especially since I often tend to be a people-pleaser, to a bit of a fault. And that’s the case, not just with nominations but in general.

        You’re welcome! If appreciating your opinions comes back to bite me, well, I can think of much worse things to bite me, that’s for sure.

        Liked by 1 person

      5. We all need to remember that we’re not responsible for others’ reactions. We’re responsible for our actions & our reactions. It’s hard to accept sometimes, especially when we see our actions hurt our loved ones that we’re not responsible for that upset. Sometimes the actions that are best for us can upset or even negatively affect our loved ones.

        That doesn’t make them wrong or bad. It’s hard for people-pleasers, especially. My friend & her husband I mentioned in the other comments are both people pleasers. I have to remind them that saying “no,” or “stop doing that” is an acceptable answer.

        Bwahahahaha. My “brutal” (I’m working on that part & the overly critical part) honesty & shameless sharing of opinions does tend to get annoying. Hence, my warning against being too happy about my honest opinion. LOL

        Liked by 1 person

      6. Yep, you are 100% correct. It’s hard for the people-pleaser in me to accept, but you are 100% right. We can’t even control everything with us, let alone how others may react to things. And yes, saying “no” is okay–I’ve discovered that if I stretch myself too thin and say “yes” to everything, it becomes worse than if I said “no” in the first place.

        With the warning, fair enough. I’ve been warned. 🙂 I value any and all opinions that help make the world a better place (which is DEFINITELY the case with your opinions on topics such as mental health, vulnerability, and much, much more). Even if the honesty and sharing of opinions is “brutal.” Haha. 

        Liked by 1 person

      7. It’s funny – my fibromyalgia support group was just discussing the importance of self-care & how saying “no” is a big part. You stretch yourself too thin, as you said, you make people expect you to do stuff for them (& get upset when they don’t get you to do it), & resentment builds up. I’ve found myself doing it too – someone asks me to do something, I don’t want to do it, but I sigh & do it anyway. Then, I get frustrated at the person for making me do something I don’t want to do.

        Well, I’ll put it this way – don’t ask me if your butt looks big in your pants if you don’t wanna hear the truth. That’s my level of honesty. Few people would probably ask my opinion on clothing, though. LOL

        Liked by 1 person

      8. You’re fibromyalgia support group is right–saying “no” and not stretching yourself thin is SO underrated. I’ve experienced the same thing before…if I say yes to too many things, I stretch myself thin and have a feeling of resentment. That’s the last thing I’d want, and the last thing many of us want.

        I do think that honesty is a gift. Sometimes, though, if one is afraid of the truth, it has to be reflected on why there’s such a fear of the truth.

        Liked by 1 person

      9. Besides resentment in ourselves, which should be our primary concern, stretching ourselves too thin also doesn’t help others as much. I know that when we spread ourselves too thin, the quality of what we can give to people also lessens.

        Again, with the physics (I don’t know what it is today; I swear, I’m terrible at science & math lol), if you expand a rubber band, it gets weaker as it stretches. Eventually, it’ll break. Or, it’ll snap. & we all know how much that sucks!

        That’s a really good way of looking at honesty, I think. Also, I’ve learned to try not to be a jerk about honest opinions. Sometimes, people don’t wanna hear the picture is crooked, or the world is imperfect. So, both parties have to be aware of what’s out there. LOL

        Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.