Alright, let’s get this out of the way right quick – DISCLAIMER:  I based this post on my own, and other people’s, anecdotal experiences.  Even though it’s directed at men, it’s not just them refusing to get treatment (all you women – we see you too!).  I want to hear your thoughts if you’ve seen … Continue reading WHY DO GUYS REFUSE TO SEE A DOCTOR?


Commentary #110: Fatphobia in the Medical System, and Thin Privilege

Don’t buy the hype. BMI doesn’t take muscle mass, which weighs more than fat, into account. Body-builders are often “obese” by BMI standards.

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I found this on Facebook on July 29, 2020. It was originally shared by Heatherina Lavender on May 25, 2018.

This was utterly shocking to me. I’m ashamed of how shocking it was.

No wonder Americans have issues with eating disorders!

The resounding comment I got when I shared this on my Facebook page/profile was about Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS). Many of my friends have it, but almost all of them were not properly or appropriately diagnosed for YEARS. And that is completely unacceptable.

I remember learning about PCOS in “Family Life.” I think The Care and Keeping of You, by American Girl, may have covered it? I can’t remember for sure. I also read Girlology multiple times through the library.

Here’s some more information about PCOS:

  • The ovaries produce an abnormal amount of androgens, male sex hormones that women typically have in small amounts.
  • Some women do not…

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Three exercises for noticing small emotions

If nothing else, I find this subject interesting & I’m re-blogging to keep it available to me in the future.

If it helps any of you all, I will take all the credit for sharing it, of course. 😉 (Many kudos to the real hero in that scenario – the author, for some great tips.)

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Historically, I wasn’t very good at noticing emotions when they are small. In fact, for the longest time I really only noticed emotions when they became too overwhelming to ignore. This was not an effective strategy. It led to really painful interpersonal conflict and meant I spent a lot of time running away from emotional experiences. These days I’m much more able to identify and name emotions when they are low-level, which helps me to identify my needs and desires and to communicate these more effectively. Much of the credit for this goes to the work I have done in being mindful of my emotions. Here are three exercises that I’ve found helpful:

1. Noticing emotional neutrality

Throughout the day you will most likely have moments when you don’t think that you’re feeling much of anything. These moments are perfect for pausing to notice whether anything more complicated is going…

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5 Simple Things Restaurants Can Do to Be More Accessible to Fat People

While I don’t normally curse in my own posts, I think the Fluffy Kitten’s cusses are beyond reasonable!

Fluffy Kitten Party

I’ve been thinking a lot about accessibility lately. And it seems like the restaurant world is, too: The Washington City Paper recently published a great, long-form piece by Laura Hayes about the lack of accessibility in D.C.’s restaurants. Today, Washington Post restaurant critic Tom Sietsma announced that he will start including accessibility information in his reviews, after years of being asked about it by his readers. Including information like this in restaurant reviews is important: critics like Sietsma can make or break restaurants, they send business to restaurants’ doors, help fill their tables, and can take their brand to new heights (or severely tarnish it). When a critic slams a particular dish, or a negative review is published, restaurant owners often scramble to make amends and right their wrongs. Food critics wield considerable power. And when they make an effort to call out the ways an establishment is

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#ButDon’tYouWantToGetBetter: Women, Doctors, and the Lack of Diagnosis

Took me over 4 years to get a fibromyalgia diagnosis. 5 years is the average diagnosis time, as 80% of the patients are female. Don't let a doctor disregard your pain - especially if you're female. We know our bodies, we know when something's wrong, take that s--- to another doctor (& another, & another) … Continue reading #ButDon’tYouWantToGetBetter: Women, Doctors, and the Lack of Diagnosis

Discussion: Periods

Rae at Bookmark Chronicles was brave enough to discuss her first menstruation in her post. We really do need to discuss female anatomy & biological functions without shame, code words, or covering the ears of impressionable youth.

So, to put my money where my mouth is, I’m going to share the story of my first period. I’m not talking about school, either.

I got my period when I was around 13. This was a year after my mother died, & around the time of my Bat Mitzvah. Mom knew she was dying & she was a biology teacher, so she gave me a quick run-down of what was going to start happening soon. Honestly, I wish my parents had felt comfortable enough discussing this topic with me from a younger age, giving me some time to prepare.

Heck, they bought me a book, obviously geared towards kids, explaining where babies come from that I had from before I can remember. It would seem that a similar book on menstruation would be a no-brainer.

If that book doesn’t exist yet, it needs to. Someone write it.

I’ve been incredibly fortunate in that I didn’t have excruciating cramps, headaches, or other issues before, during, or after my period. I’ve been on hormonal birth control since I was around 17, not because I was always sexually active, but because it’s helpful as heck to know when my period’s coming. Underwear is expensive, people.

Seriously people – if you’ve talked about your flatulence, or your bowel movements without batting an eye, you can do the same with menstruation, even if it doesn’t affect you personally. That brings me to the next point I think is important: people of both genders (but, yeah, I’ll say mostly men) need to be more familiar with female anatomy. The number of people who think women urinate out of their vagina, or can hold in menstrual blood like holding in urine, is astounding. 🙄


If you cringed or made a face while reading the title then you need to stick around until the end because you need to hear this more than anyone.

Let’s get to it.

Lady time, Aunt Flow, mensies, your special visitor, that “Time of the Month” whatever you call it, today we’re going to talk about it.

Men – yeah I’m coming for you first. If you are a straight man who is sexually active then you have no right to say that you are “grossed out” by periods. I’ll be blunt: if a vagina isn’t “gross” to you when you’re sticking your dick in it, then it’s not any other time either. Seriously, grow up.

This especially applies if you have children. If you’ve got boys, then you need to raise them so they understand periods not be afraid of them, so that they don’t become one of those…

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