Beautiful Procrastination

I have so many blog posts in the works & ideas, it makes my head spin. Also, my beloved cat, is trying to stress me to death. Again. First time was in October 2017... but, that's another blog idea, I'm sure. 😉 Things are heading in the right(ish) direction now, so I'm back to work! … Continue reading Beautiful Procrastination

You Don’t Have to Be Positive to Be Strong

So true! I think, sometimes, telling someone “You’re so strong” can affect them negatively. I know I don’t like to come to people sometimes because they’ve told me how strong I am & I don’t want to disabuse them of this image.

The therapist (on Instagram) Taylor recommends looks – & sounds – pretty good! I’m not much of an Instagrammer, so I didn’t look at it very closely. If you do, let me know what you think!

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There’s a page on Instagram that I follow that belongs to a therapist – her handle is @lisaoliveratherapy – and she is awesome. She’s truly #TherapistGoals! If you don’t already follow her, I recommend you check her out she has something for everybody on there. Anywho, the other day she posted about strength and positivity and it really put some things in perspective for me. The photo read “Your strength is not determined by how positive you are. Your strength is determined by how much space you hold for ALL parts of you.” In her caption she went on to dissect that quote and explain in depth how it applies to life. The first line of the caption read “There is a myth that positivity is strength.” This post really spoke to me especially in my current situation and I’m here to debunk that myth!

I felt the need to…

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Realizing You’re Amazing!

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Realizing that you’re amazing – it’s not always easy, is it? While some of us constantly hear praises and words of positivity from others, some of us are used to hearing more negativity than we would like. Whether this negativity comes from the mouths of others or from our own thoughts, we need to realize just how amazing we are!

Today I went to the therapist and while we were discussing things, I realized just how much progress I’ve made. I still have a long way to go, but I’ve done a lot of great things. I’ve managed to get much more involved with my writing and I’ve taken more steps to get through my anxiety.

While I definitely hear praises and positive comments, I also hear people saying things about me that aren’t so kind. Unfortunately, I think a lot of people deal with this. We hear rude comments…

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How To Deal With Negative Thoughts

Another tip my therapist gave me for negative thoughts: “Would you say that to your best friend? If not, what makes you feel like it’s appropriate to say to yourself?”

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Everyone has negative thoughts time to time in their lives, which is normal. But excessive negative thinking can cause physical and mental health problems. Negative thoughts are not caused by just a few people or situations. Everyone experience negative thoughts at some point in their lives. In fact, having negative thoughts is a normal phenomenon and there can be many different reasons for your negative thoughts.

I had been telling you to replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts. In many of my previous posts I have told that the way you think about yourself whether it is negative or positive your life will become positive and negative respectively.

psd-trash-can-iconNegative thoughts are occurring about us mostly in our mind such as “I should be better at this.”, “I’m a loser”, “I’m always ruining everything.” or “I’m pathetic.”

Many people ask me how to be more positive in life or how to…

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Rae’s Rules to Remember #15: Love Your Body

I have very strong opinions on this subject! You can’t determine a person’s health by how skinny/overweight you (think) the person is; you can only determine your own biases.

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I came across a video with Nev Shulman and IO Tillett Wright (Co-hosts of MTV’s Suspect) talking about how body image in the media is completely unrealistic. I can’t figure out how to get the video from Facebook to post here so these are some of the things that were shared:

  • 91% of women are unhappy with their bodies
  • Only 5% of women naturally have the body type portrayed in American media
  • Most models weigh 23% less than the typical woman
  • 20 years ago, that difference was 8%
  • This issue affects men too (Look at movies like Magic Mike)
  • 25% of average weight males think that they need to “bulk up”

Not a lot of people know this, but I have a thyroid disease (called Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis) that causes me to gain weight unexpectedly and causes my hair to fall out. For a long time I couldn’t gain weight and then…

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