3 reasons to pay attention to social comedowns in a pandemic changed world

This is so true. Having fibromyalgia, I already had some issues after social events (no matter how awesome they were). Talking about it is the first step – It’s more common than you’d think!

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Many people experience a social hangover or comedown after spending time with friends. Some people know it as con-drop. Others just recognise that social interactions have the cost of a night of rumination and worry or a morning of scattered brain. These experiences are not widely discussed, which means that folks can feel really ashamed when they have a hard time after an otherwise pleasurable social event. I think this is a great moment to start talking more about social hangovers and come downs because they are very likely to get more common as more places come out of lock down and people start to socialise more. The shift from relatively few social interactions to a great deal more social contact, and particularly contact with larger groups of people, is likely to cause increases in social anxiety, higher levels of adrenaline and cortisol in our blood as we have social…

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An on-point message

I really thought this argument was gonna go way differently when I read the first couple of sentences. Please read it all – it’s true.

Also, if men want to be involved in decision-making around abortion, & they want to keep a pregnancy while the woman doesn’t, they’re welcome to carry the child themselves.

Until then, anything anyone – male or female – says to a pregnant woman is an opinion. The ultimate decision lies with her. Suck it up. 😊

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The joy of comet relationships – Part 1

So, total truth to my people – I’m polyamorous. I have been for many years, even though I didn’t have a term for it.

As such, I’m still learning the “jargon.” I never had a name for these types of relationships, but hearing them termed “comet relationship” makes perfect sense. ❤

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Let’s start at the beginning. ‘Comet’ isn’t all that new to the poly lexicon, but I’ve found lots of people that are unfamiliar with the term, so I’m going to start with what it means. The More Than Two glossary defines a comet as:

“An occasional lover who passes through one’s life semi-regularly, but without an expectation of continuity or a romantic relationship.” 

I couldn’t disagree more with the second half of this definition. A polyamory reddit post contains a definition that I agree much more with:

“A person that passes through your life repeatedly who is intense and awesome, and when gone you are still in contact with that person in some way, but they are not a continuous partner.” 

But it still doesn’t quite capture my experience with comet relationships.  I see them as having elliptical orbits like comets in space. My comet relationships are with people that…

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Friendship breakups 1 of 2

Relationships of any kind can be abusive. It can be just as hard to “break up” with a friend as it is to end a romantic relationship.

You deserve respect & support from all the people in your life. ❤

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*So I was going to write a really long post, but I thought that it may bore people to read my point of view. So I’m going to write it in two parts. One talking about a basis of where I’m coming from with friendship break ups. The other will be about how to spot if you’re in a toxic friendship and how to get out of it. Purely from my personal experience*

I was replying to an answer on Quora (Quora is fabulous by the way). Someone asked the question about how do you know when your relationship/partner is toxic. I started off by saying that I think they already knew the answer. Normally I would respond with just that. However, since the other people who answered were about how wonderful their partners are…

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I decided to talk about how the hardest, but most toxic relationships I have…

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A Dear Friend’s Birthday! Or, An Excuse To Talk About Delicious Food & A Dessert So Amazing I Have Dreams About It

One of my dearest friends had a birthday at the beginning of last month.  To celebrate, she put together an invite on FB & we decided to go to a place in a local mall on September 29th. Why am I telling you this?  As an excuse to share pictures of the delicious food we … Continue reading A Dear Friend’s Birthday! Or, An Excuse To Talk About Delicious Food & A Dessert So Amazing I Have Dreams About It