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#WhyIDidn’tReport: Yes, Colour Matters In Sexual Assault Cases

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Like with the “Friendship Breakup” series, over the next few weeks, I’ll be answering commonly asked questions surrounding, specifically, Dr Ford and the entire fiasco that we just watched. 

As this topic is of a sensitive nature, and many of you may have questions or stories you’d like to share or have answered, please feel free to drop a message in my Facebook inbox or DM me on my Instagram, @thingscarlaloves. You do not have to share your story in the comment section (or anywhere else) if you do not feel comfortable. 

As always, there will be a list of helpline services added, if you need help. I strongly urge that you confide in someone you trust in order to help you heal. 

I know there’s a lot of ya’ll who like to pretend like things like white privilege don’t…

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#StopBlamingWomenMakeMenTheIssue: Torres Strait Islanders & Aboriginal People – Names of a Deceased Person

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To any Torres Strait Islander or Aboriginal people reading this post, please be warned that this post will be discussing the murder of an Aboriginal woman from 2011. Out of respect for Lynette Daley, her family, and Aboriginal culture, I have left Lynette’s name out of the title. Please be warned that Lynette’s picture will also feature, but I have tried to ensure it won’t display on any device by ensuring there are plenty of other photos.

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The other day, I read an article by Jane Gilmore, discussing that there was no national outrage or outcry, and little had been said in the media, about the fact that just the other week in Australia, six women were murdered in five days.

Yes.

Six women were murdered in five days.

As a result, I am working toward and planning to dedicate several Raising Awareness slots…

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#WhyIDidn’tReport: No, Victims Don’t Owe You Their Story

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I think one of the most common themes among the whole Kavanaugh fiasco is that people believe that rape victims owe their story to someone.

There’s people who seem to believe that it’s only rape if you immediately go to hospital and immediately report a rape case, without taking into consideration the fact that it’s a fucking trauma and, you know, people react to trauma in shocking ways.

It’s like there’s a word that happens to people who are particularly shocked after a particularly horrific trauma.

I think it’s a pesky, confusing medical term like shock, or something.

Don’t worry, it’s not like people die from shock or something.

Image result for house dying quotes gifsPretty much how people view rape victims (though I love Maggie Smith!) PC: Refinery29

But I’ve talked about that, at least in part. I’ve tried to give you the facts about what happens after a rape, even though the people…

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Ohio goes in Reverse

The words I want to write/say here are unsuitable for publication. 🤬 🤬 🤬

Coalition of the Brave

One of the recent news stories to come out of the US is the one about Republicans and the religious right putting their contempt for women out there for all to see, virtually abandoning their pretence that this is about life. The ‘pro-life’ movement has never been pro-life, only anti-choice, because giving women sovereignty over their own bodies is a dangerous move that would leave a lot of those on the religious right without power.

From this article

In the stampede to ban abortion, Republican politicians don’t always bother to keep up the pretense that their opposition to abortion is about “life.” All to often, they let slip how much it’s rooted in contempt for women having control over their own bodies and their own futures.

Last week, the Ohio state house passed a bill that would ban abortions at six weeks. That would effectively a ban on most abortions, 

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#StopBlamingWomenMakeMenTheIssue: Toyah Cordingley

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The other day, I read an article by Jane Gilmore, discussing that there was no national outrage or outcry, and little had been said in the media, about the fact that just the other week in Australia, six women were murdered in five days.

Yes.

Six women were murdered in five days.

As a result, I am working toward and planning to dedicate several Raising Awareness slots to the women who have sadly lost their lives in 2018, in Australia, to domestic violence. Hopefully, if we are reminded each week of their faces, their names, their lives, we will get over our compassion fatigue and start to give a damn about violence against women.

I would also like to take this opportunity to note that during this time, White Ribbon has decided that it wants to be “agnostic” when it comes to…

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Sticks and Stones: Gayle Potter

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The other day, I read an article by Jane Gilmore, discussing that there was no national outrage or outcry, and little had been said in the media, about the fact that just the other week in Australia, six women were murdered in five days.

Yes.

Six women were murdered in five days.

As a result, I am working toward and planning to dedicate several Raising Awareness slots to the women who have sadly lost their lives in 2018, in Australia, to domestic violence. Hopefully, if we are reminded each week of their faces, their names, their lives, we will get over our compassion fatigue and start to give a damn about violence against women.

I would also like to take this opportunity to note that during this time, White Ribbon has decided that it wants to be “agnostic” when it comes to…

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Statutory Rape is Still Rape

Also, a teacher having a “relationship” with a student? Yeeeahhh, power dynamics make me feel all skeeved out.

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Yes you read that title correctly and YES there are people in this world who somehow “don’t get it.”

I was scrolling on Twitter and this man (bless him) was advocating for rape/sexual assault victims and dropping the mic all over the damn place.

He literally had to explain to someone that statutory rape is still rape.

Here’s what happened.

So there was this article about how two teenage girls – 14 years old – went to the wife of one of their teachers to tell them that he was having an affair……with them.

*brb need to go vomit*

Alright I’m back. So the police came to arrest this man and somewhere in the article it says that both teenage girls “consented” to this “relationship.”

Here’s the thing that apparently is hard to understand (even though it’s really not).

The legal age to give consent in the States is 16…

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Sticks & Stones: How Do I Know If My Friend Is In An Abusive Relationship?

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The other day, I read an article by Jane Gilmore, discussing that there was no national outrage or outcry, and little had been said in the media, about the fact that just the other week in Australia, six women were murdered in five days.

Yes.

Six women were murdered in five days.

As a result, I am working toward and planning to dedicate several Raising Awareness slots to the women who have sadly lost their lives in 2018, in Australia, to domestic violence. Hopefully, if we are reminded each week of their faces, their names, their lives, we will get over our compassion fatigue and start to give a damn about violence against women.

I would also like to take this opportunity to note that during this time, White Ribbon has decided that it wants to be “agnostic” when it comes to…

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